I just had a quick thought about one of the many reasons people say they can't create their dream - money.
If you think about it, what are spending your money on now reflects the dream you are currently living, not the dream we want to live next. So our opportunity is to ask ourselves, "Is what I'm spending my money on now in alignment with my new dream?" I bet you'll find many opportunities to re-allocate, especially your disposable income, your money to endeavors that will support your new dream.
The best part? It won't be a sacrifice because you don't want the old dream anymore so you aren't loosing anything, you are actually choosing to fund your new dream.
Something to think about!
Judge Not Dreamers! 09/28/2010
In my last post I mentioned the idea that our choice to pursue our dreams can sometimes feel like coming out of the closet. The reason? Judgment! In this case, it is self-judgment. But how about when we judge other people's dreams?
Guess what? It's still self-judgment!
If you have your attention focused on what someone else is either dreaming about, or in the process of creating, what you really are saying is that it is not okay for YOU to have and pursue your dreams. Why? because if you were okay with your dream all your attention would be on your dream and creating it, you wouldn't have any attention left to put on someone else.
How about when someone tells you about their dream and your thoughts turn to how it can't be done? Or when you tell someone about your dream and they tell you all the reasons it can't be done? It is important to remember that everyone is judging their own dreams!
So what can you do? When someone tells you about their dream, put your attention on supporting their next step. When someone judges your dream, know that they are judging their own dream.
In the end all judgment is self-judgment. I know I'm not sharing anything new, but I am inviting you to be aware of where your attention is. If it's NOT on your dream and creating it, then you may be judging your dream.
Are you? Then ask yourself, "How can I support my dream?" Share with us how you would by commenting below!
Dreamers - Please Come Out Of The Closet! 09/16/2010
Something struck me recently while working with a client. She had a dream to do something totally in opposition to the industry she is currently working in. She knew exactly what her dream was, but she was still experiencing a lot of resistance to admitting it to herself and me.
What struck me is that we don't have a lot of practice being honest about our dreams. Heck, we don;t have a lot of practice being honest about all the important things, how we feel, what we think, who we are....Past experience has taught us that when we share our dreams we get resistance from our reality, so what do we do? We give up. Well after so much giving up we get to a point where we have a hard time admitting our dreams even to ourselves.
In my own experience, being honest about my dream to help people live their dreams, was like my experience of coming out of the closet. It was completely in opposition to what I had been taught and what was expected of me. I'm sure many of you can relate! The experience is fraught with fear, confusion, in-authenticity, doubt, worry. When you think about your dreams, your REAL dreams not those that conform with your reality, I bet you experience some or all of the states of being mentioned above.
So how do you come out of the closet about your dreams? You've got to be willing to be completely honest with yourself. Once you are, then you can start to share your dreams with folks you know who will be supportive. Now you are moving toward your dreams, not staying stuck behind a closed closet door!
To get you started, share your dreams here. Go ahead and comment below. Write your dreams, your REAL dreams, the more "out there" the better! You've got nothing to fear here, so come on out!